How to work with your wedding photographer

How to get the most out of your relationship with your wedding photographer to get the best images!  Joined again by Nu Bride family member Amanda Karen Photography guest posting for us today and sharing her wisdom and the TWO biggest things you need to ensure you get the most out of and develop a great working relationship with your wedding photographer. If you like and trust your photographer you’re going to feel more comfortable around them and get better images. Bingo

Over to Amanda

Relationships are absolutely key

The first thing to say is that your working relationship with your photographer is most definitely a two-way street. You’ve chosen them to capture one of the most significant days of your life and they want to give you their very best. Sounds idyllic doesn’t it but, like all relationships, there needs to be plenty of open, honest communication and a whole lot of trust for this to work.


Let’s start with communication. Firstly, there’s a lot more to this than simply expecting everyone to reply to their emails in good time although email etiquette is probably a good place to start. We’ve all got very used to living in a world where communication is pretty instant. Platforms like Facebook even rate and reward businesses for replying quickly which is both a blessing and a curse. But, when it comes to your photographer, there could we be a disconnect in the times that you’re both available so it’s worth keeping this in mind. Your photographer is likely to be messaging you during working hours and you’re likely to be messaging them in your downtime, typically evenings and weekends. Of course, weekends are likely to be full of weddings for your photographer and they certainly won’t be checking mails whilst they’re capturing a wedding. So, instant communication might not be feasible. This isn’t a bad thing, it’s just something to keep in mind.

Your photographer also needs to be kept up to date with your plans. Of course, you don’t need to let them know every time you decide on another decoration but the big things are important – when you confirm timings, numbers of guests and major details, let them know because these are the things that can really impact their work. It’s also a good idea to chat through your timings with your photographer before these are set in stone. Your photographer can check that your schedule includes enough time for group photos and couple’s shots, particularly if you want those super romantic ‘golden hour’ shots later in the day.

Family politics

It’s also a good idea to tell your photographer of any potential issues or family circumstances. Let me reassure you here that whatever you’ve got going on, you won’t be the only one so please don’t ever feel embarrassed about telling your photographer anything. If certain groups of your family don’t really get on or if your soon-to-be-mother-in-law has told you that she’s going to ask for 15 extra group shots, tell your photographer before the day so that they can help manage everything for you. This really is one of those situations where a problem shared is a problem halved.

Lastly, tell you photographer what you want. If you’ve chosen your photographer carefully, there should already be a pretty good match-up between their style and yours but however wonderful wedding photographers are, mind-reading skills do not tend to feature on our resumes! If it’s important to you that a specific something is captured or if you really want a photo with your god-daughter, just say.


Now that last point leads us rather neatly onto the issue of trust. You really need to trust your photographer and they need to trust to you. You shouldn’t arrive at your wedding day feeling worried about your wedding photography and you should be feeling confident that your photographer totally understands you.

To my mind, this is why engagement or pre-wedding shoots are so important because they really help build trust. During your shoot, you trust your photographer to gently direct you and put you at your ease and when you see the images, you know that you were right to trust them. Then, come the big day, you can totally trust them to capture you both and your wedding in a way that you’ll love.

Of course, this all starts when you choose your photographer and it’s so important to take time here to select someone that suits you. There really are photographers of all styles out there so you’ll definitely be able to find a supplier you’re comfortable with, you just need to invest some time in this process to make it work. Think about the style you want, decide how much you can afford and get to know your photographer a little before you book. The relationship should be easy and relaxed, not strained or forced. Remember that your photographer will be by your side throughout your wedding day – it’s important that you feel comfortable in their company.

If you trust your wedding photographer, you don’t need to worry about providing them with a shot list that runs to pages and pages. Yes, detail the group shots you want and any shots that are particularly important to you but, beyond that, trust your photographer to do their job and to do their best for you. Let them capture your day as it unfolds in a natural way, don’t whether them to a never-ending shot list. If you trust your photographer, you know they’ll photograph all the important moments and you can also trust that their well-tuned eye won’t miss anything.

And so there we have it – the secret of a wonderful working relationship with your wedding photographer comes down to two things, trust and communication. Keep those in mind throughout the wedding planning process and the big day itself will be absolutely amazing.

Until next time, Amanda x

Oh Amanda, she is golden. Thank you for guest-posting for us today. Some brilliant tips to get you started.

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Amanda Karen Photography

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