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Unconditional, limitless love.
One of the things I love about running Nu Bride is being invited in to share your love stories, not just the immense joy that comes with finding your soul mate, but sometimes in your pursuit of happiness, to also share the very real challenges some of you are faced with to strive to be with and marry whom you want.
The UK is becoming more and more integrated. As a country we often celebrate how multicultural we are and how our social landscape is changing, yet with all of this progression and integration, it is hard to imagine that inequality and discrimination continues to exist for so many couples who simply choose to marry the person they love, especially if outside of their race, religion or gender. And the hardest part; sometimes this comes from the people we love most.
Today, I have another heartwarming story of love winning.
Allow me to introduce you to wonderful Rajni and Aaron who tied the knot in summer last year.
How they met
Rajni and Aaron met shortly after they graduated from University whilst shopping at a chance encounter in GStar! Rajni a sales assistant at the time, wowed Aaron with her customer service skills Aaron was so impressed he invited her out for an orange juice, which Rajni politely declined. Not giving up – Aaron left his number and they went out for that drink the day after. The rest is history and they married in August 2017, at The Bond Company in Birmingham.
Look out for the impeccable bespoke fashion items in this wedding – I mean, the groom wore custom-made shoes (a man after my own heart!). The attention to detail both Rajni and Aaron spent on their wedding day look is inspiring. They celebrated their union of two families and cultures coming together with a British-Indian celebration full of joy and limitless love. PLUS they had the help from some very talented family members who helped bring Rajni’s vision to life with some fantastic touches, from flowers to film and decorated the entire venue on the morning of their wedding. Even Rajni got involved and was making hers and her bridesmaids bouquets! A great example of capitalising on each others talents to add your own personal touch.
Enjoy the delightful images captured by Priya at SORRISO Wedding Photography – a debut feature on Nu Bride. I couldn’t, not share this heartfelt message about Rajni and Aaron that I got from their photographer; Priya:
We hit it off the moment we met and I felt like I had known both Rajni and Aaron for years.
After the couple booked me to photograph their wedding day, I had learned about the challenges they had faced as a couple being from mixed heritage backgrounds. Having faced my own past relationship challenges, I completely related and understood how important and meaningful this day would be to them both.
A couple of months before the wedding, Rajni and Aaron had their pre wedding photoshoot with me. This was a chance for them to be completely themselves as a couple and just be in love. I have to say it was the most fun engagement shoot ever! The two of them were like two best friends just having a good time, laughing, joking, flirting. Rajni and Aaron didn’t need any direction from me at all. They were an absolutely dream to photograph. The couple were in their own world, excited, in love and taking a moment to just be completely themselves as a joint entity.
Words fail me when it comes to explaining their beautiful wedding day. After all the struggles and challenges Aaron and Rajni faced over the years, their dream to officiate their union came true. Two cultures rejoicing together showed me what real acceptance and unconditional love is.
My personal message to Aaron and Rajni is a huge heartfelt thank you. Not just for choosing me to be part of your wedding journey. But for making me believe in fighting for what you want even when you have all odds against you, for showing me what real acceptance feels and looks like. Thank you for making me believe in unconditional, limitless love. Remain unbreakable.
Over to Rajni and Aaron for more details.
Aaron – It was the 6th November 2014, I collected Rajni from the train station on her way back from London and we went to our favourite local pub, The Old Crown.
Rajni – We had a drink, I remember admiring the fireworks through the window behind Aaron. We left to head home and Aaron decided he wanted to take a detour to our local park, which overlooks the city’s skyline. I remember it was cold and we were clinging onto each other for heat until Aaron pulled away, he was down on one knee asking me if I would marry him.
I’ll never forget the patch of mud on his new jeans!’ I remember the sky being cloudy that night but as I looked up after getting engaged, all we could see was stars! It felt like they had come out for us.
We chose a venue with an outdoor and industrial theme. We knew we wanted to get married in the heart of Birmingham, home to us both and in Digbeth, which is where we live and spend much of our time.
The theme of our wedding was very natural and fresh with many personal handmade touches. One of our wedding day triumphs was managing to buy fresh flowers from Birmingham flower market before the wedding for our centrepieces and bouquets. I made mine and my bridesmaids bouquets on the morning of the wedding (Nu Bride: how did you find the time LOL!) and thoroughly enjoyed it! Making a back drop for the wedding ceremony, was a real joint effort between me, Aaron and Aaron’s dad who is a real DIY man!
We chose Priya from SORRISO Wedding Photography to capture our day. We would absolutely recommend Priya and her team, they made us feel very relaxed, she was discreet throughout the day but captured all of our special moments and more. Our details, family and friends have all been captured in a very natural way and this is exactly what we wanted!
I wanted to incorporate my Indian heritage which really came through in my wedding dress. It still fit like an English (western) wedding gown but the embroidery and stonework was all Indian! To represent my culture I also chose to have Mendthi and wear traditional Indian details such as the Chura and Kaliras on the wedding day itself.
I knew that I wanted something between an English gown and traditional Indian red outfit to represent me, someone who is close to her heritage but also lives in and fully embraces the British culture.
Finding the right dress was difficult but I was determined to fulfil the look I wanted. Indian fashion designer, Sabyasachi is a massive fashion inspiration to me for his regal and extremely elegant outfits which I had the pleasure of wearing.
The Suit: Aaron, often likened to a young Will Smith, wore a stylish tailored suit from Clements and Church coupled with swanky handmade Vass Shoes from Budapest, finished off with a Drakes Diary pocket square and tie (Nu Bride: Dapper groom alert – such a joy seeing men taking great pride in their wedding day appearance)
We knew we wanted a civil ceremony at the venue rather than at the registry office and then the wedding breakfast and reception at the same venue to save people from travelling.
Music punctuated our ceremony. Apollo Soul (guitarist, saxophonist and singer) played before and after the ceremony with Tokio Myers played the piano as Aaron and I proceeded down the aisle.
A stand out moment was when my father turned up to the wedding ceremony. He had previously chosen not to come due to his disagreement to Aaron and I’s union, marrying outside of my culture, and it was my brother that walked me down the aisle.
As soon as I saw my father, I became very emotional and almost couldn’t believe my eyes! It was a special moment. My father turning up to our wedding was definitely a huge step towards acceptance.
One of the funniest moments of our wedding day was when Aaron was asked if he takes me to be his wife and he didn’t respond!!! (Nu Bride: Oh my gosh lol) He wasn’t sure whether to say ‘I will’ or ‘I do’ The moment has been captured perfectly on camera!
To decorate our top table we used fresh flowers from ‘Petals of Medinah’ in Birmingham. Fresh flowers for centrepieces were sourced from Birmingham flower market. I was all designed all of our decor and it was set up on our wedding morning by my amazing girls. My brother (bhulla) designed our order of service stand, table seating plan. Our Cake toppers were also made by Bhulla. OUr favours I made – they were small paper birdcages were fulfilled with chocolates from Hotel Chocolatiers
Wedding breakfast was provided by Eastside Catering in Digbeth in a BBQ style. Evening food was provided by a street food vendor called ‘Spice is right
Soul City Band and a DJ helped our guests party into the night. The music was a mix of Motown, Soul and R&B.
For our first dance Aaron surprised me by changing from his suit into a traditional Indian Sherwani on the dance floor! We both love old skool R&B and so ‘I swear’ by ‘All for one’ were the perfect choice for us.
Some stand out suppliers we would like to mention are Steve Seniary from Events Asia in West Bromwich is worth a shout out, we used them for my pre wedding celebrations. Steve went beyond our expectations to make sure we had everything we needed! Ace Weddings were brought on very last-minute the week of the wedding to supply some additional décor that we both wanted. Sat went above and beyond to source the décor requested.
Top tip for couples
- Make sure you try all of the food at the wedding that you have spent time and money on.
- Spend time together as husband and wife on the day even if it’s a couple minutes here or there
- We provided food for the day and food for the evening, however as it got very late, it would’ve been nice to still have nibbles for the late night stragglers
Photographer: SORRISO Wedding Photography
Venue: The Bond Company, Digbeth
Bride’s Fashion: Dress: Sabyasachi
Shoes: New Look
Hair and Make up: Harvy Beautician
The Girls: Bridesmaid Outfits: Fabric was sourced from Stratford Road, Birmingham and tailor made in Alum Rock, Birmingham
Flower Girls outfit: TK Maxx
The Guys Groomsmen Suits: Clements and Church
Pageboy outfit: H&M