Words Words Words

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Rewind 12 months ago and I never would have imagined that I would be typing in “wedding invitation words” into google and worst still, have several thousands of results presented to me. (Give me strength!) :o)

We are lucky to live in a modern and multi-cultural society where tradition is not necessarily dictated as the norm and as a result we are presented with lots of delicious choice (sometimes too much).

Several decades ago I am sure invitations were far more simple….traditionally the parents of the bride were the ‘hosts’ and contributed to most or all of the wedding costs and as such, this was reflected in the invitation wording:

“Mr and Mrs X would like to invite Joe and Jessica Bloggs to the wedding of their daughter; Miss A to Mr B…” (Sorry I couldn’t think of any more exciting examples to use other than A and B and Mr and Mrs Bloggs!)

There are so many compounds thrown into to mix these days – What happens if Mr and Mrs X are no longer together? What if the bride and groom-to-be are paying for the majority of the wedding? What if the bride and groom-to-be are estranged from their parents or have lost their parents? And don’t forget the groom-to-be’s parents or other relatives that may also be integral to contributing / hosting the day – so do their names all go on the invite too? If I went by these traditional wedding wording guides the first page of my invite would just be a list of names and nothing else!

Should the invitation be written in the first or third person – does it even matter, does anyone even care or notice?!

Why should the RSVP be on the bottom left of the invite – will the invite suddenly spontaneously self-combust if I decide to put the RSVP section on the right hand side instead?!

Of course there are certain etiquettes we may wish to follow, but I have come to the conclusion that there are no rules ladies and gentlemen – our versions of reality are different to each others, and some of the wedding guides we read stating that the brides parents should do this, and the grooms parents should do that, are nothing more than a guide, nothing is set in stone, there are no legal stipulations regarding whose names should go on the invitation and in which order. These guides rarely take into consideration the many intricate variables when it comes to families and that we don’t all necessarily come from a traditional 2.4 children set up. So I say – make your own rules – use these guides as a great starting point and find your own sources of inspiration to create your own magic that works for you and your partner.

The only thing I would say is a must with your wedding invitation wording is:

* Make sure your instructions of when and where the ceremony is and when and where to send the RSVP are concise and crystal clear!

* Make it easy for your guests and give them a variety of ways to RSVP, especially useful for those who love technology and those who don’t.

*Be clear with timings; if your guests are notoriously challenged with their time keeping abilities (ahem!), put an arrival time on the invitation in addition or instead of the ceremony time. ;o) For example – if the ceremony time starts at 12:30pm, put a note for guests to arrive at 12pm, don’t assume that if you put down a 12:30pm ceremony time on the invite, that they will automatically know to arrive 30 minutes early….they won’t.

* Put your personality in your invitations. Not just in design, but in the words you use to invite your guests. E.g. ‘Dear…..We would be honoured to share our wedding day with you.’ ….’Dinner at 6pm followed by a boogie on the dance floor!’

Below are some sources of inspiration I have found to get you started. Enjoy!

Image source: Google

Image source: Style Me Pretty


Image source: Cutture

Image source: Pinterest | Three Little Words

Image source: Etsy

Image source: Pinterest | Wedding Wire

Image soure: Etsy

Image source: Etsy

Image source: Google

Image source: Etsy

Image source: Etsy

Image source: Google

Image source: Etsy

Image source: Etsy

Formal and informal wedding invitation wording useful resources:

Wedding Invitation Boutique


The Knot


Let me know your experiences and how you get on – what words did you choose to use for your invitation? ;o)

Nu Bride


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2 Responses to “Words Words Words”

  1. Natalie Bea
    May 19, 2012 at 5:01 pm #

    Great post. Love the tips. There really are some beautiful invites out there. Thanks for sharing.

    I’m toying with the idea of going paperless and maybe only sending paper invites to certain family members, such as parents, grandparents, a few aunts and uncles etc.

    Like you say each to their own and whatever works for you and your partner. That’s the key.

    • Nu Bride
      May 20, 2012 at 5:31 pm #

      Thanks Natalie. Glad you enjoyed and hope it helped a little.

      I agree, it has to be each to their own.

      A few of us had a discussion about paperless v’s paper invites and most came to the conclusion that what ever suits, fits! You Certainly will save on postage costs!

      For us, in a day and age where everything is going paperless and the only thing that arrives on our doorstep are bills, we decided we liked the idea of friends and family receiving something other than a bill in the post and decided to go for both a paper invite and a wedding website. 😉