Hello and welcome to Nu Bride!
My first ever Blog….where to start?!
Perhaps the beginning….
I recently turned 30 and I must admit, the prospect did not fill me with the greatest amount of enthusiasm – having set life goals and expecting to have achieved them ALL by now and not having done so. One of which was to be married, perhaps with a kiddie or two. Needless to say I did not expect that 6 weeks later my now fiancé, David would sweep me off my feet with a romantic proposal along the London embankment. Weee!
You can imagine my excitement! Absolutely thrilled I could barely contain myself…. The first thing I did (once shops were open the morning after the night before), was pop to my local newsagent and I literally bought the entire row of bridal magazines (ok a slight exaggeration, I brought four!).
I got home and ripped open the plastic cellophane with such excitement and anticipation……beautiful wedding dresses, photography, jewellery and planning articles, but something was missing for me, where were all the black brides? After flicking through them all it became apparent that this was not a ‘one off’ there was and is a clear miss representation and lack of diversity which came as a shock to me living in such a multicultural society.
I ended up writing to some of the editors to share my views on the subject… surely I couldn’t be the only bride-to-be to highlight this to them? When looking through a magazine as a Black Bride, I want to get a feel for how a dress will look on my skin, how a tiara will look in my Afro hair. There was no representation in any of these magazines that I could identify with. Such a pity.
Now don’t get me wrong, I am not expecting a whole rendition of the ‘all black Italian Vogue’ just a little more integration, in a 2012 multicultural England. It took me back to growing up as a child – I was one of about 2 black children in my entire school…. watching Disney films, I always thought that I could not ever be a princess because all of the characters at that time had a different skin colour to me, Snow White, Sleeping Beauty, Cinderella (Pocahontas / Jasmine hadn’t quite made it yet! Gosh I am showing my age!). I grew up believing that black was not deemed as beautiful.
I had hoped that over 25 years later that this would still not be the case. But alas, when opening these magazines, it really did make me think. Are black women really not beautiful? Not princesses?
I am a black bride-to-be and I hope that I will make a beautiful bride. It would be wonderful if this little blog could help in some way in helping other brides find a small place to identify, share ideas and experiences….maybe even a little step in getting the mainstream to take more responsibility in portraying more of an even mix in their bridal magazines? Wishful thinking maybe! But I hope you find it fun, insightful and maybe a little inspiring.
Please stay tuned over the coming weeks / months as I get to grips with the blogging world and share some wedding gems, ideas and experiences with you all. I hope you find it helpful and of course if you have any stories to share then do please get in touch 🙂
Nu Bride xx
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