Simple recipe to write your own wedding vows!

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Hello my gorgeous ones

I’ve been thinking about my wedding vows a lot recently; and they make me smile. A lot.

Today I wanted to share a little bit of creativity with you around writing your own wedding vows.

Wedding vows are the fundamental and binding promises we make to each other to honour our commitment to our partner on our wedding day and beyond.

Some couples prefer to recite traditional wedding vows, they are sacred, well-known and they are ‘official’.

After taking one sniff of the traditional vow choices on offer, Mr Nu Bride and I instantly decided we wanted to write our own vows. To us, our ceremony and wedding vows were THE most important part of our day. For that reason everything that encompassed our ceremony was the most creative aspect to any other part of our wedding. It wouldn’t have felt like ‘our’ wedding or ‘our’ vows unless we added our own little creative stamp and personalities to it. We wanted something that was personal and meant something to us and only us.

Of course, once we made the decision to write our own individual vows to each other, I conveniently got writers block! Typical!

Vows are incredibly powerful. The pressure was really on to write something meaningful, honest and something we could recall and turn to for strength, joy or comfort in years to come. (Oh crikey, we didn’t think that one through properly, what an undertaking! Suddenly traditional vows seemed more and more appealing!!)

The more pressure I put on myself to create something memorable, the more my creativity dried out like a shrivelled up prune. However, I eventually discovered something very useful! Various useful and simple ways to elicit inspiration to write my vows that I wanted to share with you all!

Firstly – If you are thinking of writing your own vows or are worried or not sure how to write something memorable, you don’t have to be a Nobel prize winner or particularly creative, you just need to note down things that are important to you and that you think shape the foundations of a promise!

Have a go with your partner, it’s such a lovely exercise to do together. It is also light relief from the plastic politics of budgets, guest lists and seating plans, but focuses on what really matters: you and your love.

Have a go!

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♥ Note down a list of 10 of your values – values are a set of beliefs that are important to you, that you live by. Put them in order of importance.

For example:
2. Love
3. Respect,
4. Integrity,
5. Happiness,
6. Joy,
7. Honour etc….

♥ In order of importance, using the top 5 values that you just listed, (if you need to re-order them, do so now!)note down FIVE ‘promises’ that you would like to make to your hubby/wife-to-be.

For example: I promise to be honest, I promise to treat you with integrity, I promise to respect you, I promise to fill our lives with joy, I promise to tell you I love you every single day. (Don’t be afraid to add humour too, if promising to be a domestic goddess or learning how to cook without burning things to a smithereen is something you want to promise; {Be realistic – don’t set yourself to fail now ladies!} – add that in too!)

♥ Write down the THREE most important reasons why you want to marry your beloved

For example: Foundation for family, incomplete without him, want to grow old together

♥ Write down THREE things (go on then, more if you want to!) you love most about your partner

For example: His smile, his kindness, his capacity to love all my imperfections

♥ Note down ONE thing you have found in your partner

For example: Best friend

♥ Write down TWO of your aspirations

For example: To travel, To have a family,

♥ Write down TWO of your partners aspirations

Happiness, to fulfill dreams

♥ And finally, write down TWO ways your partner makes you feel (keep it clean folks!)

For example: Worthy, beautiful

Want to see what you can create out of some of the mock input above?? Here goes!………..

Insert hubby-to-be / bride-to-be’s name: HERE

‘In you I have found my best friend. I instantly fell in love with your smile, your kindness and your capacity to love my imperfections.

You make me feel worthy and beautiful.

I cannot wait to spend the rest of my life with you, to share in happiness, to travel and to support you to fulfill your dreams. I am incomplete without you and I cannot wait to grow old with you.

With this ring, I promise to be honest, to treat you with integrity and respect. I promise to learn to cook (!), to do my best to fill our lives with joy and I promise to tell you I love you every single day.”

See, not as hard as you thought is it?! But so powerful and created entirely by you!

You don’t have to use every idea, but it sets your inspiration off on the right track, the rest is easy! Just use values and words that are true to you and your personalities and that are important to you and the foundations you want to set together as husband and wife.

Going through this exercise creates a lovely moment to truly reflect on the reasons why you are getting married and a chance to share and remember some of the glorious-ness in your relationship that still gives you butterflies. These moments can truly take your breath away in the midst of the wedding planning haze!

If you are really stuck, the fabulous Emma Woodhouse The Wedding Reporter made a great suggestion and recommended taking inspiration from song words, poems or films for vows or even bespoke readings too….(within reason people’s!) We found inspiration from this beautiful piece written by Shonda Rimes randomly whilst watching an Episode of Greys Anatomy!

“I do not stand here on my wedding day optimistic or full of hope. I am not optimistic. I am not hopeful. I am sure. I am steady and I know….” How gorgeous is that?!

Have you considered writing your own vows? Did you write your own wedding vows? If you try this little exercise I created, please let me know how you get on!

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2 Responses to “Simple recipe to write your own wedding vows!”

  1. Chanelle
    October 3, 2015 at 9:53 am #

    This is excellent advice as we are writing our vows. Thanks a bunch

    • Nu Bride
      October 3, 2015 at 12:04 pm #

      Pleasure as always Chanelle xx